It’s important to understand the signs of domestic violence so that you can take action to help yourself or a loved one. Here are 10 of the most common indications that a relationship is abusive:

1. Physical abuse: Any use of force or physical harm.

2. Mental or emotional abuse: A regular pattern of verbal offense, threatening, bullying and constant criticism, as well as more subtle tactics like intimidation, shaming and manipulation.

3. Controlling money: Your partner should not have financial secrets, keep money from you or control how you spend your money.

4. Checking phone, email or social media without your permission: Looking through your email, phone or internet history without your knowledge or permission.

5. Isolation/keeping you from seeing friends or loved ones.

6. Cruelty to animals or children: Violent behavior toward animals or children.

7. Threats or intimidation: This may include your partner breaking things on purpose that are sentimental or valuable to you.

8. Threats of suicide: Using threats of suicide as a way to control a partner and/or keep them from leaving.

9. Drug or alcohol abuse: This can lead to other abusive behaviors. One partner insisting the other drink or take drugs is also a form of abuse.

10. Extreme jealousy or possessiveness: Calling or checking up on you excessively or insisting on knowing where you are at every moment. This also includes possessive behavior, such as criticizing or dictating what you wear.

These behaviors are not acceptable in any relationship. If you or a loved one is experiencing any of these signs of abuse, tell a trusted friend immediately and talk with a health professional or contact a local domestic violence awareness group.