living in a pandemic

Living in a Pandemic  

Living in a Pandemic  

Our first instincts as humans when faced with crisis or threat is to turn to other humans, to seek solace, to seek connection, to try to stay safe and to try to make sense of what is happening. However, in this Pandemic we are being told: To stay away! That crowds are dangerous! Even people are dangerous! Do not go see your elderly mum or grandma, as we could dangerous!Read more

Young Woman Comforting Her Upset and Sad Friend Outdoor

Freeva | What Is Sexual Abuse?

What Is Sexual Abuse?

Q. What is Sexual Abuse?

A. Sexual abuse is any sexual act, attempt to obtain a sexual act, unwanted sexual comments or advances, or acts to traffic, or otherwise, directed against a person’s sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless of their relationship to the victim, in any setting, including but not limited to home and work.

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domestic abuse

What Is Domestic Abuse And Signs

What Is Domestic Abuse And Signs

Q: What is domestic abuse?

A: Domestic abuse is categorised by any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members.

If you are suffering from physical, sexual, psychological, financial abuse or/and are being threatened, intimidated or stalked by a current or previous partner or close family member, it is likely you could be experiencing domestic abuse.Read more

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If I leave a window open 

If I leave a window open 

If I leave a window open, am I asking to be burgled?

A person walking past decides to accept my open invitation to enter my home, as clearly my window is open and what else could that possibly indicate?

Surely its my fault for leaving the window open and I am responsible for that person actions?

Am I asking for it if I… wear a short skirt or dress

Am I asking for it if I…accept a drink from another

Am I asking for it if I… am dancing or flirtatious

Am I asking for it if I… am under the influence of alcohol or/and drugs

Am I asking for it if I…walk down a low lit area

Am I asking for it if I… invite someone into my home

The answer is NO, no one asks to be assaulted, just like no one asks or wants to be burgled. You cannot be responsible for someone else's actions. Rather than focusing attention upon a victim’s behaviour and character, lets focus on the wrongdoing of the one perpetrating the acts.

So just like an open window is not open invitation, wearing a short skirt or dress is also not an open invitation to touch or enter without permission!

You are not to blame, you did not ask for it and we are here for you. ''


Sophie Gifford
Counselling Co-ordinator